I have a 3 ½ years of Energy Bundle @ home. My amma used to stay “Kuzanthai valarpathu yaaagam yagyam pannara mathri” But now-a-days it is easy to do yaagam yagyam too, we have so many organisers for that, But the former is always a puzzle.
I have been reading a magazine “Emirates Parent Plus” for a quite a long time. It has good articles relating to Parenting. I came across this, one particular article The Butterfly Rule – Jack Reider. Thought of sharing with you all.
The Butterfly rule - Save your child before it is too late
Most of us carry childhood traumas made acute with the rise in child psychology. This has resulted in us trying to become the friends of our children, but not just that. We try to do everything for them under the excuse that our parents did not do these things for us. But is this the right way to bring up our children.
What is the Butterfly System?
Most know that the butterfly is a transformation of a caterpillar which itself comes from an egg. But, did you know that for the caterpillar to become a butterfly it has to form a cocoon. When it turns into a butterfly, it has to struggle to open the cocoon, and it takes them hours to manage to break that open. Once they do, they emerge, spread their wings and fly off.
If you try and cut open the cocoon to help the butterfly emerge, you will destroy it. It will be too weak to fly. So, even if you put it in front of you and even if its in your power to cut the cocoon open, you won't because you are thinking about the best interests of the butterfly.
Just like you would leave the butterfly trapped inside the cocoon, you have to learn how to let your children fight through life by themselves. Yes, at first, they will not succeed, and may even fail badly. You will want to help them. You might even know how to help them. But, please, do not!